Pouring Into Your Own Cup: What are you really filling it with?
The reminder we’ve all heard…
“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
It’s one of those phrases that floats around wellness spaces—but one morning, it hit differently and I found myself wondering: What exactly am I filling my cup with?
Because it’s not just about being full—it’s about being filled with what actually nourishes you.
so What Are we Allowing In?
We steady ourselves for the race of daily life but miss or don't know how to provide space for us.
Am I making space for peace, rest, and creativity—or more stress, guilt, and overcommitment? What am I pouring in that doesn’t actually serve me? What can I release to reclaim space for myself?
Pouring into your own cup is an act of ownership.
Ownership of your energy.
Your capacity.
Your space.
it can’t wait until sunday…
I love the idea of Self-Care Sunday—but if we're quietly enduring the week just to arrive at one restorative day, something is off.
I don’t know about you, but when I don’t give myself enough room to breathe, everything feels heavier. A small challenge becomes a mountain and I lose my balance.
Real self-care has to happen during the week. In the moments we often give away to everything and everyone else.
The Bargaining Habit
Our wellness has become something we negotiate: “If I get through all my this, then I’ll make time for myself.”
But why are we bargaining with ourselves for the time, love, and attention we already need and deserve? We already owe it to ourselves!
Growing up, I didn’t hear the term self-care. It was just called responsibility. Maybe routine or chores. Rarely framed as ritual, nourishment or even care. Taking care of yourself meant the basics, like hygiene and going outside to get fresh air. But now I see it differently because there’s really so much more to it. Self-care is the personal manual for how we live as the best version of ourselves.
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
Small Shifts, Big Impact
When something feels out of alignment—mentally, emotionally, physically—it’s always worth the time and effort to make a change.
Even small changes make a difference.
In fact, those are the ones that last.
Being “healthier” doesn’t mean chasing perfection. It means being well on purpose. Because if our daily habits are leading us toward exhaustion, no amount of appointments can fix that. We need radical, daily self-care.
We need to put our healing and thriving first—not as a luxury, but as a lifestyle. So the love we pour into others reflects the love we’ve already poured into ourselves.
We need to be the ones filling our own cups, becoming what we need first.
Give Your Intentions Your Attention
It’s not glamorous. But there’s power in giving consistent, mindful care to your everyday life.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it’s unromantic.
When we move through the tough moments with intention, we grow. We heal. We become.
This Season, I’m Choosing Me
As I celebrate another trip around the sun (this makes 39!), I’m in awe of how much I’m still learning. Watching my children grow, reaching 15 years of marriage, and 18 years with my partner—it reminds me that growth never stops.
Don’t wait for another week or month.
The future is coming—but you’re here now.
It matters how you show up in these moments.
Let’s Check In
Where are you starting from?
What’s calling for your attention this season?
Let’s talk about it. Feel free to share in the comments or message me directly.
You deserve to take up space in your own life🌙
